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8 Unhealthy Habits You May Be Teaching Your Son

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As parents, there are times when we are so busy trying to raise a good kid we lose sight of the power of our daily interactions with our kids. We forget that they watch us and learn by our example.

1.Nagging– If you’re nagging someone, you know it. I know when I’m being a nag and I even annoy myself. Nagging doesn’t motivate, empower or encourage anyone to do what you want. It’s a waste of energy and it creates more conflict.

2. Pessimism-If you focus on the negative events in your life, you are not in the position to embrace what’s good in your life. Being a negative person damages relationships and is detrimental to your emotional and physical well-being.

3. Worrying-Of course you are, you’re a mom! However, worrying about every little detail, sniffle and scrape will make your son an anxious child. Constant worrying only leads to fear filled thoughts.

4. Anger-Do you blow up for any little minor infraction? Deal with your anger issues. Your son shouldn’t have to be on the receiving end of your anger.

5. Passive-Aggressiveness-You’re still an angry person, you just manage to pretend you’re not angry. Being passive-aggressive is a weak excuse for not addressing challenges or conflicts in your relationships. Giving your son the silent treatment doesn’t teach him how to properly deal with conflicts.

6. Being Over-Indulgent– Whether it’s overspending or overeating,anything in excess is not good for you. Kids need structure. Too much of a good thing can be bad. Set limits and enforce rules.

7. Distress-There is good and bad stress. Good stress intrinsically motivates us to persevere. Bad stress robs us of our health. Kids pick up on their parents stress levels. Do your best to find techniques to deal with the stress in your life.

8. Ignoring Depression-Depression is a debilitating disease. Unfortunately, too many moms don’t address or properly deal with depression. We choose to ignore or dismiss our depression as “the blues” or occasional sadness. Break the cycle of depression by getting the help you need.

Sometimes we allow the situations in our lives to control or dictate how we behave. Making a conscious decision to be aware of your actions and behavior will help you to be the example of social and emotional wellness for your son.

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5 Ways to Empower Your Teen Son

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A teen's life is filled with confusion, stress and peer pressure. As parents, we must support their needs and guide them to make the right decisions. According to experts, the frontal lobe of the brain doesn't fully mature until the 20's, which is why teens need their parents help in decision making, judgment, planning or organizing. When parents empower teens, they are confident in their abilities, have respect for themselves and others and have a more positive outlook on life.

Here are five ways you can empower your son:

1. Teach your son to be responsible- Hold him accountable for his actions. Show him how to be mindful of how he interacts with other people.

2. Teach him to respect the opinion and property of others- There will be many things and people that will irritate him on any given day. Show him healthy ways of communicating and expressing his feelings.

3. Teach him to stand for a cause.- Tell him to stand up for what he believes in. Help him to get involved in his community and be of service to others.

4. Teach him to be himself- It may be difficult for him to to be different in a society that encourages teens to be like everyone else. Help him to understand that his views and opinions are important. Let him express himself in healthy and productive ways.

5. Teach him to bounce back from failure- There are setbacks in life. Remind him that there is a lesson to be learned in every situation or event that occurs in his life.

  • What are some ways you are empowering your son to be of service to others?
  • What life skills do you think are important to teach teens?
  • Does your behavior reflect that of an empowered parent?

How to Have a Sane and Stress Free Holiday

The holidays are times full of joy, cheer, parties, and family gatherings. While it's a time to be with family and friends, the season also can cause much stress and discontent. The demands of holiday shopping, parties, family, and house guests also contribute to feelings of tension. The holiday hype can leave you feeling like you’re expected to do many things all at once. This year, make a commitment to your emotional and physical well being and take it easy with these simple steps.

Save time for yourself

Don’t give away all your time and energy to please family and friends. Give yourself a break and learn to trust others to help you with your responsibilities. Take personal time to reflect on what the holidays mean to you. Natural Bloom has great stress relievers!

Enjoy the food, but don't overindulge

The best part about the holidays is the food! Loads of fattening foods, sweets and alcohol can tempt you to over-eat. The holidays are no excuse to make poor choices that you will regret later. Make substitutions when possible and eat smaller portions. Drink plenty of water and try to avoid too much caffeine.

Give gifts from the heart

Why overwhelm yourself trying to please someone by searching for the “perfect” gift. You don’t have to “break the bank” to buy gifts. Stick to your budget. If you are crafty or creative, make gifts. If you don’t have the time to make gifts, use a guide to help you find a gift for that picky person. Surprise.com helps you find the right Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa gift for even the most difficult person.

Let go of the past

This is not the time to self-evaluate on the mistakes you made this year or to focus on your regrets. Don’t compare yourself to others and berate yourself for not following through on goals or resolutions. Think about the new opportunities that await you.

Start a family holiday tradition

Start a new tradition with your immediate family. Volunteer together for Thanksgiving or host a multigenerational holiday party. Let your kids in on the planning and make it fun. This will get everyone involved.

Go with the flow

Who says your family gathering has to be as great as your mom, aunt, grandmother, mother-in-law, sister, best friend, etc? If you accidentally ruin the pumpkin pie, have a store brought pie on hand just in case. Be prepared for mishaps, by having an alternate plan. Set realistic expectations. Don’t let the little things ruin your holidays. If someone makes an unpleasant comment about your dinner or party, tell them to host next year.

Anti-Stress Kit for Moms

Anti Stress Kit for Moms-Author Unknown

  • An eraser to make those little mistakes disappear
  • A penny so you are never completely broke
  • A marble for those days when you think you’ve completely lost yours
  • A rubber band to help you stretch beyond your normal limits
  • A string to hold it together when it all seems to be falling apart
  • A toothpick to remind you to "pick out" the good qualities in others and yourself and to be tolerant and accepting of the differences of others.
  • And chocolate to remind you that life really can be sweet