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Everyone needs a pep talk from time to time. It’s easy for kids to get discouraged when they can’t do something and want to give up. More than giving support and cheering our sons on, we need to help them overcome the challenge and stay on track.
1. Change Your Approach
Step out of your point of view and look at things objectively. It will help you gain a new perspective.
“Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal – a commitment to excellence – that will enable you to attain the success you seek.”-Mario Andretti
2. Step Away From the Situation
Take a break from the challenge or obstacle that is blocking you. Don’t try to dominate or overpower it.
“Learn the art of patience. Apply discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success.” -Brian Adams
3. Be Still
Quiet your mind so that you can get the answer that you need. Just take a few minutes to clear your mind.
“An inability to stay quiet is one of the conspicuous failings of mankind.“ -Walter Bagehot
4. Keep Your Enthusiasm
Don’t lose the energy and spirit that you need to keep you going. Start each day with a positive outlook.
“Success is going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm.“ -Winston Churchill
5. Use Your Imagination
See yourself accomplishing your goals.
“Live out of your imagination, not your history.” -Stephen Covey
6. Write Out Your Dreams/Goals
Write out exactly what you are striving for until it becomes real to you.
“Motivation is like food for the brain. You cannot get enough in one sitting. It needs continual and regular top up’s.” -Peter Davies
7. Have Faith
Faith is the greatest motivator of all times, without it you can get nowhere, with it you are a powerful force.
“Walking your talk is a great way to motivate yourself. No one likes to live a lie. Be honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do.“-Vince Poscente
The other day I asked my husband: “Do you think you’re being the best man you could be?” He thought about it for awhile and responded “No”. I appreciated his honesty and it opened up a discussion in which we both were able to share without judgment or shame. It gave me the opportunity to express how I was feeling and to let go of any resentment I felt towards him. I was more sympathetic to his adjust to civilian life following his recent deployment.
I know that getting angry and being critical (a sad attempt to motivate him) was causing us to have more arguments and creating an unbalance in our marriage and family. Asking him this simple question (and giving him time to respond) gave him a safe space to be honest about what he needed to do in his life. It also brought an awareness to what I can and can not control.
We need the men in our lives to flourish because they are the role models for our sons. It is important to me that my husband sees himself through God’s eyes. If he loses hope and faith, our sons lose hope and faith.
As women, sometimes we see that the men in lives have either lost their way or are discouraged and we feel the need to steer them in the right
direction. It’s not our job to make our men be their best, they have to want to do it on their own. We have to be sensitive to their vulnerability but we can’t be responsible for their actions and behavior. Your partner needs to have his own purpose in life. What we can do is address our concerns and have realistic expectations of them. When we start dictating to them how they should think, behave and feel, we stop being partners and start becoming mothers.
I know and understand my role as wife . I’m here to hold my husband accountable and to support him when he is not thriving.