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As we get ready for the summer season, I think about how we go through various seasons in life. We are reminded in Ecclesiastes 3:1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. As we watch our kids finish the school year and prepare for the summer, their physical transformation during these brief months can leave us baffled by the brevity of childhood. Just as the seasons change, our sons go through their seasons of emotional, mental, spiritual and physical change. Whether your son is in kindergarten, middle/high school or college, the season of his life will be filled with hope and challenges. While we wish we could easily prepare our sons for these transitions, we can’t predict with accuracy what will happen in each season of our son’s life.
A few years ago, middle school felt like the coldest winter ever. Like a harsh winter season, my son’s school year was unpredictable and arduous. As a parent, sometimes all I could do was offer support and encouragement while feeling helpless and unproductive. There were days the more I tried to help, the more he resisted. I learned to adapt to my son’s changes by being consistent with my presence without being overbearing. As my son grew older and learned how to manage his emotions, I also learned how to manage our mother-son relationship. I learned to be present when he was talking and when he needed me to guide, coach or direct him.
I learned to appreciate the seasons of my son’s life. Parenting doesn’t prepare you for unexpected power struggles, the moments of uncertainty, or the quiet emotional storms. Someone once told me, “Raising boys is deceptively simple”, and I agree that sometimes we make assumptions about the emotional lives of boys.
You may not notice the season of your son’s life until he reaches puberty. Then you may notice the varying degrees of emotions and behavior. Like rain on a sunny summer day or snow in the spring, be prepared be caught off guard with unexpected changes. What’s most interesting about boys is that most of them are intricate, sensitive, and fragile, yet they mask this by being flippant, apathetic and indifferent. Be patient with the passing storms and be grateful for the mild days. On days when you’re tempted to let the circumstances take over, remember like every season, this too shall pass.
Once you realize you’re in a class that is over your head, you may decide to cut your losses, drop the class, and try it again another semester. But once you’ve gotten through a good portion of the semester, it may be too late to transfer or drop the class without facing some major financial or academic losses. That’s when you need to seek help to get you through the semester. But where can you turn for help? And how much help do you need? If you’re in need of some help on your homework or to get through a specific class, there are varying degrees of help you can seek.
Your Teacher or Professor
The first thing you need to do when you feel yourself floundering is talk to your teacher or professor. Let them know you’re struggling and ask their advice on how to improve. They may offer to sit down and explain concepts to you, so you get a better grip on them. Or they may offer to let you re-submit improved versions of past assignments to raise your grade. At the very least they may be able to point you in the direction of extra resources.
The internet has changed they way be access and gain information. Chances are, if you are having trouble with your class work in a specific subject, someone else has had the same problem and may be able to give you advice—all you have to do is search. There are also thousands of online tutorial available as text or as videos on a variety of different subjects. If you need clarification on a certain principle or concept, Google it, and you may find the answer quicker than you think.
Books and Guides
There are also thousands of study guides and “dummy”-type books that can help you with certain subjects and concepts by breaking them down into much easier forms and steps. For example, if you are having a hard time in a Shakespeare class, search for Cliff’s Notes or Spark Notes summaries that can help you understand what is going on. However, be careful; use these materials only as guides and not as replacements for doing your actual work.
Many large-enrollment classes, like first-year biology or history have TAs that are there to help students who need a little extra help now and then. These TAs are advanced students who are usually juniors, seniors, or graduate students who have taken the class previously and can help you get ahead.
Many colleges offer free tutoring programs or have Math, Biology, Physics, or Writing Labs sprinkled around campus where you can go for help on your assignments. Take advantage of these resources; they’re there to help you succeed. The lab techs or tutors in these labs are usually upper-level students who are very knowledgeable and are there to help you learn. They talk to students everyday about how to succeed in their subject of expertise, and they can give you the help you might need.
If one of these sources fails, try another, or try them all. If you need help, and are willing to look for it, there is no reason you should fall behind or see your class work suffer. Try these resources and find the ones that will best help you get ahead in your classes.
Diane Johnson writes about several topics including travel, University of Phoenix Campuses, and anything else that interests her.