Puberty is Like a Sucker Punch
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I think moms of boys under the age of 10 are so cute. The way they go on and on about their little guy is so touching, you almost don't want to burst their bubble. Almost. But you know better because you are the mom of a teen boy. A different species. You've witness and live through what puberty does to this sweet little boy. You know that in a few years, she'll be asking herself: " What happened to my little boy?"
She'll notice the signs such as his increasing appetite, voice and other physical changes. She just won't expect the emotional changes directed at her. It's like overnight, her son went from hugging her goodnight to being repulsed by her touch.
It will hit her like sucker punch. Not the kind of sucker punch you get from a toddler while trying to take the remote control from him. A 1990s Mike Tyson sucker punch.The kind that makes you sleep for days.
Puberty is like what happened to Gregor Samsa in Franz Kafka's The Metamorphosis (Yes, I read literature). Overnight, that sweet little boy who hung onto your leg and said he would marry you when he gets older transforms into another being. This new being is taller, stronger and has more testosterone. He will test limits, he will be unpredictable, he will have new adventures, he will utter few words, and he will spend a lot of time in his room. The more you try to reach out to him, the more rejects you and each time you go down like the Meme in Wii Boxing that gets KO'd.
You have to keep in mind that puberty is just as confusing to your son as it is to you. He can't explain his physical or psychological changes. He is having a difficult time figuring out who he is and what he wants.
Just as you resign to the fact that your little boy is gone, the unexpected happens. One day, he comes home from school, hugs you from behind and tells you about his school day. As he makes his way to his room, you sigh in relief that all is well again. You even make his favorite dinner. Just don't get too comfortable. Another sucker punch is right around the corner.
Hang in there. You'll just get a few more gray hairs from the experience.
How are you adjusting to puberty?