Are You a Christian or a Bully?


And you must show mercy to those whose faith is wavering.-Jude 1:22

I saw this tweet yesterday on Twitter and it made me stop to think this verse. Think back to yesterday, "Were you merciful to someone who was in doubt?" or did you pass judgement or criticize them?

I am a Christian, but lately I am ashamed to be associated with some Christians.There seems to be this need to bully, intimidate or chastise those who are not "like us".  It seems that some Christians are so ready to cast the first stone.

The same people who are touting how much they love Jesus seem to not  know his sermons very well.  They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, "All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!"  (John 8:7)

I am a Christian. I know God's purpose for my life and each day do my best to live according to that purpose. I am not perfect. I make mistakes. I do not feel compelled to grab a pitchfork or torch or stone to condemn those who are living their lives differently from mine. It is God's will that your honorable lives should silence those ignorant people who make foolish accusations against you. (1 Peter 2:15)

I remember when I told a co-worker that I was a Christian and she fled from the room. Looking back, I could understand her fleeing (just not so dramatically). She probably thought that I was going to criticize how she lives her life and harass her to come to church with me so I can save her soul. 

I do not get any satisfaction in making others feel bad, so  that I can feel good about myself. I do not feel the need to hang out with only "saved" people. Who did Jesus hang out with? When Jesus heard this, he told them, "Healthy people don't need a doctor–sick people do. I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners." (Mark 2:17)

Who are we to judge? If you're the kind of Christian who feels the need to look down on others to elevate yourself, don't be surprised when no one wants to receive your message. What that person who is down and out needs is a kind word, a hug,  and compassion. A bible verse or a gospel song has its purpose but when people's spirits are broken and battered, they need you to show you care. They need you to be Christ-like and pick them up and dust them off.

Stop being so righteous. Stop inciting fear and creating an environment of fear, hate and hostility in the name of Christianity.  Stop thinking you are a qualified spokesperson for holy living.  Stop being a spokesperson for Jesus, he already said everything perfectly.  Stop being divisive and narrow-minded.  Stop force-feeding your beliefs to non-believers.

Most importantly, stop being a hypocrite. The kids are watching and they're learning. If we want to raise Godly men and women, we must be example of  loving Christians.

Show mercy to those who need it.  Let grace be at the center of your life.  Remember that Christianity is inclusive, not exclusive.

If God doesn't like the way I live, let him tell me, not you. – Author Unknown

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2 Responses to Are You a Christian or a Bully?

  1. Esther Irish says:

    Pride and bullying is never right though I do think the Word of God makes sinners uncomfortable. It should! :)

  2. mroker says:

    Yes, the Word of God should encourage and uplift but I’ve observed some Christians using the Word to make non Christians feel bad or inadequate.

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