10 Things Your Son Hates to Hear You Say

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Communicating with our sons can be a hit or miss. There's mom language and there's son language.  Sometimes we need a translator to help each other understand exactly what was said.

1. "We're not done talking about this."

You're thinking: I have much more to say and maybe my words will get to him and he'll understand why I'm upset about what he did.

Your son is thinking: What is this? The King's Speech? I stopped listening 10 minutes ago. What makes her think I'm going to listen later?

2. "Why did you do that?"

You're thinking: I'm doing my best to raise him to make responsible and smart decisions. Why does he do these stupid things?

Your son is thinking: I just wanted to see what would happen if I burned it; flushed it; broke it; stepped on it; took it apart; smashed it; wet it; etc.

3. "I'm disappointed in you."

You're thinking: Time to send him on a mom guilt trip. Make him feel bad about what he did.

Your son is thinking: I feel bad. I have to think of something quick to get on her good side again.

4. "We're going clothes shopping."

You're thinking: He needs new clothes. What will people think if I let him walk around in those clothes.

Your son is thinking: Why do I need to go  shopping with her? She knows my size. Let me see if I could convince her to shop online.

5. "When I was your age…"

You're thinking: I have to school him on how much harder life was for me  when I was his age. I don't want him to take me for granted. I have to show him that he's fortunate. Maybe he'll learn to appreciate things more.

Your son is thinking:  Please stop exaggerating about your hard childhood. Grandma and Grandpa are generous and easy going.  Plus, you were a girl. Can't relate. Not trying to.

6. "I'm not paying that much for a video game!"

You're thinking: The video game industry is out of control. Why should I pay $75.00 for a game he'll play for awhile or get cheat codes for and be done with it in a few days?

Your son is thinking: Why do we go through this all the time? I'll wait until she calms down and get on her good side and she'll buy the game.

7. "Look at me when I'm talking to you!"

You're thinking: This kid is so disrespectful.  He better look at me in the next minute or he's really going to get it.

Your son is thinking: I wish she'd just get that it's hard for me to look at her when we're talking. I wish we were standing side by side, it'd be easier to talk.

 8. "I don't care who started it. I'm going to finish it"

You're thinking: What's wrong with my sons?  They fight so much. I feel like I'm raising Cain and Abel. I want to make sure they get along.

Your sons are thinking: Why does mom have to ruin our fun? We're  just messing around. She takes things too seriously. No one got hurt.

 9. "How was school today?" 

You're thinking: I think about him when he's at school. I hope he had a great day.

Your son is thinking:  Why does she ask me this every day? If something happened at school, she'd find out from one of the big mouth parents.  

10. "Because I said so."

You're thinking: I'm the parent. He's the child. I don't need to explain my decision.

Your son is thinking: Because why? She needs to explain.

What would you add to this list?

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2 Responses to 10 Things Your Son Hates to Hear You Say

  1. Ugochi says:

    11. “You must finish your food, no wastes in this house.”
    You’re thinking: I couldn’t have spent money and time to cook and you are making that face.
    Your son is thinking: Then how come you didn’t finish yours?
    This is really interesting Marie!

  2. mroker says:

    You had me laughing with that one. I am guilty of saying that while having leftovers on my plate. smh

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